This may sound strange, but, yes, last week, I was almost swallowed by the fear of driving. I know how to drive.. I have never driven on third mainland Bridge, though. I've never even done any major express, but I went to a driving school sha.
Last week, I was going to pick up my car and fear struck me. I was not afraid of having an accident, No, I was actually afraid of what fellow road users will say to me, how they would abuse me, how horns will be honked at me, how bad bad things will happen- False EXPECTATIONS Appearing Real. How did I start feeling this way? The last time I drove, a very young girl driving one big car like that called me an olodo.. Lol. Unfortunately, I allowed her opinion get to me. So, I didn't want anybody to call me an olodo again, hence, I stopped trying.
On Friday, I gathered all the courage I could. I talked to my wife, my sister, and some friends about how I was feeling... I painted the worst possible scenarios and determined to create a FUN response for them all. If anyone shouted at me, I was going to blow them a kiss.. If anyone behind me kept honking his Horn for me to leave the way, I was gonna ask them to fly (I wasn't really even gonna bother about anyone behind me-They are my past). I needed to focus more on the present(the cars beside me) and the future(the ones in front of me). I put on my "WHO FEAR EPP" T-shirt to affirm myself(That shirt works wonders; place your orders now!), played a calm song, and off I went!
It worked... At the end of the journey, I didn't blow any kiss, didn't have to tell anyone to fly, didn't bash any car, my car wasn't bashed.. etc. Apparently, Fear had been lying to me... I'm going to drive more now so I can get close to being perfect.
This is exactly what you should do to your fears... Face them!
The Fear of being judged by others can be really crazy.. But, hey, no one really cares, so do what you have to do. If you do it well, they will talk, If you don't, they will still talk.. So, why bother yourself about what they feel.. It's their opinion, not your reality..
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